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BRIDGES NOT WALLS:
A BOOK ABOUT INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION 11th edition

 

Edited by John Stewart
Published by McGraw-Hill Publishing Co., 2012
ISBN 978-0-07-353431-2

 

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Forty-five readings by forty-eight different authors are collected here in twelve chapters that address Foundations of Interpersonal Communication, Making Meaning Together, Relationships, and Bridges Not Walls.  All the selections are written by experts who write simply and clearly, and ten are authored or co-authored by the editor, John Stewart.  The book covers all the important sub-parts of interpersonal communication without being a dry “survey of the literature.”  Everything I wrote is offered in an accessible, conversational tone, and I look for the same quality in the other people’s materials that I include.

You can learn how communication and interpersonal communication are related; how identities are co-constructed;  the ins and outs of verbal and nonverbal codes; perceiving and listening; expressing and disclosing; communicating with family and friends; communicating with intimate partners; coping with communication problems like deception, defensiveness, power, and verbal aggression; conflict management; bridging cultural differences; and promoting dialogue.

A bulleted list of “Main Ideas” begins each reading, so you know what to look for.  Review questions and Probes also accompany each reading, so you can check to see if you tracked what the writer said (Review questions) and how well you can extend the ideas to everyday applications (Probes).  In addition, there are extensive reference lists for those who want to do further research on any of the topics.

Content and Topics

The book defines communication as the continuous, collaborative process of verbal and nonverbal meaning making.  You learn how no one person completely controls a communication event and that no single person can be blamed for a communication outcome.  You learn about how choice, culture, and identities figure in all communicating, and how the most ordinary communication events—conversations—are the most influential.  You also learn the key skill of “nexting,” which helps you deal with communication difficulties.

Here are some of the main points that the readings make:

  • One way communication affects quality of life is that your personal relationships affect your physical health.
  • Social media can promote or destroy interpersonal contact, depending on how they’re used.
  • Identities are constructed in the ways people listen to and talk with each other.
  • “And” and “next” are two of the most important words in the English language, and there are eight words and phrases to avoid in LGBT (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender) communication.
  • Nonverbal communication functions in five main ways.
  • The most effective listening is mindful, empathic, and  dialogic.
  • You can build relationships by carefully being open with and to other people.
  • It’s crucial to separate messages from metamessages in family talk.
  • There are several specific ways to communicate intimacy, affection, and social support.
  • You can learn how to cope with hurtful messages and how to reduce defensiveness.
  • There are ways to handle the break-up of relationships gracefully and with minimal hurt.
  • Individualistic cultures are different from collectivist cultures in many significant ways.
  • There are several specific ways to build relationships with people culturally different from you.
  • Dialogue can help turn enemies into friends.

Background

Bridges Not Walls is designed for basic and mid-level studies of interpersonal communication.  Since the first edition was published in 1973, it’s been used in first-year and sophomore communication classes at colleges and universities across the country.  It’s also been used in social and clinical psychology, sociology, educational psychology, and counseling classes and with adult learners in seminars and workshops.  Topic coverage is broad enough to support most courses, and the anthology design makes it easy to change the order of the ideas and omit chapters or readings that don’t apply.

The readings are research-supported and the emphasis is on accessibility and usefulness rather than on social scientific rigor.  The goal is to help with understanding and practical application, not to “cover the literature.”  Research rigor may be important for graduate studies, but Bridges is written more for the layperson audience.

 

Table of Contents

Part One:  Foundations of Interpersonal Communication

Chapter 1        Introduction to the Editor and To This Book

 

Chapter 2        Communication and Interpersonal Communication

                        John Stewart:  Communicating and Interpersonal Communicating

                        Malcolm Parks:  Personal Relationships and Health

                        Susan Scott:  Fierce Conversations

                        Abdul K. Sinno, Rafic Sinno, & John Stewart:  Social Media, Where

                           Interpersonal Communication Meets Mass Communication

 

Chapter 3        Communication Building Identities

                        John Stewart, Karen E. Zediker, and Saskia Witteborn:  Constructing

                                    Identities

                        Steve Duck and David T. McMahan:  Self and Identity:  Transacting a

                                    Self in Interaction with Others

                        Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, & Sheila Heen, Identity and Difficult

                                    Conversations

 

Chapter 4        Verbal and Nonverbal Contact

                        John Stewart and Carole Logan:  Verbal and Nonverbal Dimensions of Talk

                        Steve Duck and David T. McMahan:  Talk and Interpersonal Relationships

                        John Stewart:  Two of the Most Important Words

                        Ben Finzel:  Say What?  Eight Words and Phrases to Avoid in LGBT

                                    Communication

                        Steve Duck and David T. McMahan:  What are the Functions of Nonverbal

                                    Communication?

 

 

Part Two:  Making Meaning Together

Chapter 5        Inhaling:  Perceiving and Listening

                        John Stewart, Karen E. Zediker, and Saskia Witteborn:  Inhaling:  Perception

                        Julia T. Wood:  Its Only Skin Deep:  Stereotyping and Totalizing Others

                        Rebecca Z. Shafir:  Mindful Listening

                        John Stewart, Karen E. Zediker, and Saskia Witteborn:  Empathic and Dialogic

                                    Listening

 

Chapter 6        Exhaling:  Expressing and Disclosing

                        David W. Johnson:  Being Open with and to Other People

                        Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton & Sheila Heen, Expression:  Speak For Yourself

                                    With Clarity and Power

 

Part Three:  Relationships

Chapter 7        Communicating with Family and Friends

                        Julia T. Wood:  What’s a Family, Anyway?

                        Deborah Tannen:  Separating Messages from Metamessages in Family Talk

                        Steve Duck:  Our Friends, Ourselves

                        William Paul Young:  Relationships and Power

 

Chapter 8        Communicating with Intimate Partners

Laura K. Guerrero, Peter A. Andersen, & Walid A. Afifi, Communicating   

                        Closeness:`: Intimacy, Affection, and Social Support

Malcolm R. Parks:  Gender and Ethnic Similarities and Differences in

                                    Relational Development

                        Lawrence A. Kurdek, What Do We Know About Gay and Lesbian Couples?

                        Erik Qualman:  Word of Mouth Goes World of Mouth:  Relationships and Social

                                    Media

                       

Part Four:  Bridges Not Walls

Chapter 9        Coping With Communication Walls

                        John Stewart, Karen E. Zediker, and Saskia Witteborn:  Deception, Betrayal,

                                    and Aggression

                        Anita L. Vangelisti:  Messages that Hurt

                        Jack R. Gibb:  Defensive Communication

                        William W. Wilmot and Joyce L. Hocker:  Power:  The Structure of Conflict

                        Charles J. Wigley III:  Verbal Aggression Interventions:   What Should Be

                                    Done?

 

Chapter 10      Conflict:  Turning Walls Into Bridges

                        Joseph P. Folger, Marshall Scott Poole, and Randall K. Stutman:

                                    Conflict and Interaction

                        William W. Wilmot:  Communication Spirals, Paradoxes, and Conundrums

                        Steve Duck:  Handling the Break-Up of Relationships

                        Susan M. Campbell:  I Hear you and I have a Different Perspective

                        Hugh and Gayle Prather:  How to Resolve Issues Unmemorably

 

Chapter 11      Bridging Cultural Differences

                        Geert Hofstede and Gert Jan Hofstede:  The Individual and the Collective in

                                    Society

                        David W. Johnson:  Building Relationships with Diverse Others

                        David A. Anderson:  From Racism to Gracism

                        Dawn O. Braithwaite and Charles A. Braithwaite: Which Is My Good Leg?

                                    Cultural Communication of Persons with Disabilities.

 

Chapter 12      Promoting Dialogue

                        Karen E. Zediker and John Stewart:  Dialogue’s Basic Tension

                        Maggie Herzig and Laura Chasin:  Fostering Dialogue Across Divides

                        Jonathan Sacks:  Turning Enemies into Friends

                        Martin Buber:  Elements of the Interhuman

 

 

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